Open Letter To A Friend

To my dear friend,

Having been through what you are going through, not too long ago, the memory of that pain is still not completely buried. Time will bring new memories which will mask the hurt and in due course, it will ebb and go away. That much I can promise you, it won't just be masked and hidden and disguised, it will go away.

Certainty is better than uncertainty in this case, even if the certainty is not what you would want to hear. Having the answer, whatever it may be, will put an end to the emotional roller coaster that you are on. You are not strapped into your seat, being hurled up and down, left and right as you hurtle along on the ride. You feel that you are in too deep, and unable to pull the emergency brake to stop the crazy journey. But you can. Even if you feel you can't. When the time comes, you will know it and you can do it.

How do I know when is time, you ask. Well, the sad but sure signal to that is - when you can stand it no more. When you are put through the wringer so much that you hit rock bottom, that you feel so depressed as you've never been before, when you don't like the person that you've become - that will be when.

I hope you don't get that far, my friend. But if that is what you need to know, and when you are able to pull yourself out of the deep, dark abyss, I will be there, standing by with a hug and a cup of tea when it happens.

Yours,
J

PS. I'm sorry I've taken the pessimistic perspective on this and have not addressed the possibility of things not ending like that, but on a happy note. If they do, it would mean things would have to take a dramatic turn, so that you would feel like a new person. If that happens, I would be really chuffed for you, but that must be a certainty and not just part of this uncertain roller coaster, sometimes up and sometimes down, emotional journey that you are now on...